The question is not moral Start by discarding the moral framing, because it makes the question unanswerable. The question is not whether a man should be allowed to date multiple women. Adults are allowed. The question is what a bounded community does to a man who dates within it, and how many concurrent partners a…
The Externality, Not the Sin Begin with the distinction that every child support debate collapses without. The state has no legitimate interest in a man’s chastity. It has an overwhelming fiscal interest in the internalization of a cost he has externalized onto someone else. A man who fathers children across multiple households has not committed…
The Engine Nobody Wants to Name Let’s start with the thing everyone knows and nobody says. The engine of culture—not the whole engine, but the part that produces the new, the strange, the beautiful, the useful—is male display. It is men performing for the attention of women. Not exclusively. Not universally. But overwhelmingly, across history,…