Tag: player
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The question is not moral Start by discarding the moral framing, because it makes the question unanswerable. The question is not whether a man should be allowed to date multiple women. Adults are allowed. The question is what a bounded community does to a man who dates within it, and how many concurrent partners a…
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The Engine Nobody Wants to Name Let’s start with the thing everyone knows and nobody says. The engine of culture—not the whole engine, but the part that produces the new, the strange, the beautiful, the useful—is male display. It is men performing for the attention of women. Not exclusively. Not universally. But overwhelmingly, across history,…
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How We Learned to Perform What We Once Felt Let’s begin in twelfth-century France. The troubadours of Provence invented a language for love that still echoes in our ears. They sang of fin’amor—refined love—a passion directed at an unattainable lady, usually married, always above the lover’s station. The knight admired from afar. He composed verses.…
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In Finland, commercial surrogacy is criminalised. The law says: you cannot pay a woman to carry your child. But the same legal system does something remarkable. It holds a man who fathers a child through a one‑night stand – even if he never wanted the child, even if he was not in a relationship, even…