The thesis A society at the peak of its liberalization is not a society without a hierarchy. It is a society that has learned to grant exemptions without disturbing the order. This is the difference between a norm upgrade and a norm reordering. An upgrade adds a group to the existing arrangement. A reordering changes…
Every man carries a version of himself he has never shown anyone. Not because he is ashamed of it, necessarily, but because showing it would cost him something—status, membership, a marriage, a job, the respect of people whose respect he has spent decades earning. Then one day the cost disappears. The kids move out. The…